Brett Gaffney has a simple calculus for his dating life: When money is tight, romance can wait. The 26-year-old aspiring actor juggles restaurant shifts, auditions, YouTube cameos and more gig work to make ends meet. But if he ends up short on money one month, dating is the first expense to go.
“It’s not that I want to go on fewer dates,” said Gaffney, who lives in Los Angeles. “It’s because I can’t buy things I need for my day-to-day life.”
He’s not alone. A Bank of America Corp. survey of Americans aged 18 to 29 found that 51% reported spending $0 on dates a month in 2026 while nearly a quarter said they’re delaying moving relationships forward because of their financial situation — if they’re dating at all. Only 11% of younger Americans described themselves as actively on the market.
Add financial concerns to the growing list of explanations for why young people are relatively uninterested in romance compared with older generations. As inflation is on the rise again, Gen Z is reaching financial independence, which “means having to make difficult trade-offs on going out and dating,” said Will Smayda, the head of financial centers at Bank of America. The survey found that 42% reported living paycheck-to-paycheck, including 29% of those earning over $100,0000 annually.
As going out gets costlier, it’s increasingly out of the budget. The average “all-in” spend on a date, including grooming and gas, reached $189 earlier this year, according to a survey from BMO, up 12.5% from a year prior. And that’s after paying for dating app subscriptions, a members club or a ticketed singles social event.
Gaffney estimates that a dinner date, including food and cocktails, costs him around $250, up from $120 just a few years ago. In busy months, he’s spending over $800 a month. Now with gas prices just under $6 a gallon, he’s only matching with people on dating apps who live within a 20-minute drive.
A friend who makes slightly less than he does has felt so daunted by the costs of wining and dining, he’s stopped dating altogether, Gaffney said. “It’s not a confidence issue. He just says he doesn’t have the money.”
For some members of Gen Z, it’s not a money issue, according to the Bank of America survey. Around a third of those surveyed said they weren’t interested. That, however, may have more to do with finances than people admit, said Hanna Horvath, a certified financial planner who writes a money psychology newsletter.
“Building a relationship and dating is an investment that’s hard to quantify,” said Horvath. “In times of economic precarity, they’re optimizing their time and their money and turning to things that are in their control.”
For Gaffney, that means staying focused on his career, investing early for retirement and being selective about how he spends his evenings. He still wants to find someone to share his life with someday. But these days, he prefers to go out with friends instead of spending hundreds of dollars to gamble on a first date. “With my friends, at least I know I’m going to have a good time,” he said.